WHY WOULD SHE SAY "YES"....What women really need from men..

 

   I got a lot of feed back from the last post on "WHAT WOULD MAKE HIM POP THE QUESTION"...and now, like earlier promised, I am dishing out what our women really want from us men (I hear women cheering...lol). After a little research from various ladies around and experiences from the past, I came up with a number of points for us dudes to put into consideration as well. Yea yea yea many guys feel a lot of ladies come with issues but I dare say we all have issues, as long as we all are raised from different backgrounds, we are bound to clash at different points. The question is "whose bullshit can I take for the rest of my life"...once u can answer this, then you are set, putting in mind that your partner also tolerates your 'bullshit' as well....2face's song- "NOBODY HOLY PASS" playing in my head. So here are the points I finally came up with.

(1)- LOYALTY: She really wants a man that is indeed committed to her, a man who wouldn't cheat on her or go around flirting with other women. She doesn't want her emotions being joked with.

(2)- A LISTENER: Its rare to find a man who really listens with the intention to listen, some listen with the intention to respond. Which really isn't what she wants, she wants to be heard, for you to hear her heart without any form of judgment.

(3)- A MAN IN CONTROL OF HIS EGO: Some men find it difficult to apologize when they hurt a woman's feelings, she wants a man who is able o drop his pride/ego for her.

(4) -A MAN WHO UNDERSTANDS HER: They always want to be understood. Any man who is a good listener will understand his woman and know how to treat her right.

(5)- ONE WHO KNOWS HER LOVE LANGUAGE: She will stay with a man who knows what to do to bring a smile to her face.

(6)- ADORE HER: A woman wants a man to make her his priority, a man who is able to put down everything to attend to her. A man who respects her and puts her first.

(7)- A SUCCESS DRIVEN MAN: Ladies love men who are hard working, men who are inspired to do better, a man who isn't just a dreamer but a goal getter. Even if he isn't there yet, but a man who its clear is heading somewhere in life.

(8)- A SEXY MAN: Make effort to look sexy for her all the time, groom yourself, work out, add some muscles, dress sharp, maintain good personal hygiene, use perfumes...do whatever you need to do to woo her all the time. Some ladies also find intelligent men or problem solvers very sexy too.

(9)- FUN LOVING: Despite the fact that he is success driven, he still can be fun. Ladies love a man who can also bring out the kid in them, (flexibility).

(10)- COMPASSIONATE MEN: A man who is able to sympathize with others, it shows he has a big heart. Any man who isn't able to show compassion, will be seen by a lot of ladies as a man without feelings.

(11)- A MAN WHO ISN'T OVERLY JEALOUS: Some women love a lil jealousy from their men, according to them, it is sexy in a way and makes them feel they belong to someone. But on the other hand, when he gets jealous just because she has male friends, then something is wrong. Guys like this must watch it and put it in check. Understand that before you she had other male friends and some will even remain her friends while she chose you.

(12)- STABILITY: A lady wants a man who isn't off and on with her in the relationship, she wants someone who will stick with her even when she goes off track sometimes. Emotional stability is very important for any man because most women rely on you to be strong for them.

(13)- A MAN WHO LOVES HER JUST AS SHE IS: Some women are very clear to point out that they know they have issues as women but would love to have a man who loves them just the way they are, with their many issues. I have heard a lady say "even with my temper and bad mouth, he still wants to be with me"...Don't try changing her, it isn't your job, if you loved her from the start, then continue loving her regardless.

(14)- A SUPPORTIVE MAN: Ladies love it when a man can support them during their personal challenges, stick by their side, and supports them emotionally, financially, verbally, spiritually...She has a project and he goes through it with her, he commends her even when doesn't do so well, he advices her, encourages her...She needs a supportive man.

(15)- NOT A MAMA'S BOY: A man who repeatedly puts his mother first before her. If she will accept to spend the rest of her life with him, she needs to feel like she matters that much to him.

(16)- A MAN WHO RESPECTS HIS OWN MOTHER: As unimportant as this may sound, a lot of ladies take their time to see how a man treats his mother. Like they say "IF HE DISRESPECTS OR DISREGARDS HIS MOTHER, HE WILL EVENTUALLY DISRESPECT YOU".

(17)- A FAMILY ORIENTED MAN: She needs to be with a man who takes family very important. She wants to build a home therefore she needs a man who lays priority on togetherness of the family.

(18)-SURPRISES!! SURPRISES!! SURPRISES!!: A great number of women love surprises, surprise gifts, surprise love notes, chocolates, bouquet of flowers...The element of surprise you throw in shows her you will do anything to make her day.

(19) HONESTY/TRANSPARENCY: Often times men find the need to lie in order to get out of difficult situations, but this decision often makes things worse than they where, especially when she finds out. She wants a man who hides nothing from her and doesn't find a need to lie to her.

(20) A MIX: This particular one also came up as one thing women look for in a man and I call it a mix. This talks about three traits in three different kinds of guys out there but women want this three traits in one man, crazy but true.
 Trait 1: Mr nice guy- he is raised well, he treats his woman nice. A good guy. He is passive, and shuns risks.
 Trait 2: The Smooth guy- he is suave, got mad swag, has the right words, a woman pleaser, a seducer, takes risk after a guarantee of soft landing, he is imaginative.
 Trait 3: The bad boy- he doesn't give a damn bout anyone, he is manly, aggressive, domineering, passionate,adventurous, risk takers, the ones women want to catch and tame, funny enough, most women love them.
 Most women want a little mix of these three traits all in one man. Guys please learn.

(21)ROMANTIC MAN: Some men lack the ability to be anything near romantic, women want a man who can also cook her a meal, sing to her, light her candles by the tub, serve her breakfast in bed...basically a man who can bring some of her fairy tale fantasies to pass. A man who can do this will always win her heart.

(22) RESPECT: Just because we are men doesn't necessarily mean we express our manliness by dis respecting the woman. She needs respect from a man, she doesn't want a man who abuses her, talks down at her or treats her like a house help.

(23) A MAN WHO IS OPEN TO HER: Just as men gravitate towards providing and protecting a woman, women gravitate towards nurturing. She wants to see your fears to and be there for you, she wants to see the cracks in your armor. Sometimes it is OK to lay your head on her chest and pour out your heart. She wants to connect with you at that level too. Its doesn't reduce you as a man, but proves to her that you are human too and that you trust her enough with your fears and secrets. She will in turn nurture you (mummy mode) but first you must give her the chance to.

(24)- A MAN WHO SEXUALLY DESIRES THEM: One major difference between the relationship you have with other women and your partner is sex. Because she is very emotional, she wants to feel needed by you sexually, its her role to satisfy you but you must show her you need her too. Praise her body, tell her you love her curves, like we comedians will say, tell her "baby, I will die there"...lol. Want her, need her too. The feeling of being needed sexually by her man makes her feel sexy.

(25)-A KEEPER OF HIS WORDS: Be a man who keeps his words, if you make promises, don't break them. She wants a man she can rely on, come rain or shine.

(26)- A MAN WHO GIVES COMPLIMENTS AND APPRECIATES HER: Women love compliments, give her compliments with or without her makeup, give her compliments all the time and appreciate her every effort in becoming better.

(27)- HELP HER INSECURITIES: You know what she fears the most, what she complains of the most, guy!! Don't do it. It is your responsibility to kill her fears and gain her trust. Its not just okay to SAY "I won't cheat on you", stop FLIRTING with other girls too.

(28)- RESPONSIBLE MAN: Know what to do, when to do it. She needs a man, not another boy in her life. A man who is making a living, a man who has an income, a man who isn't always out with the boys drinking or partying. A man with values.

(29)- KNOW YOUR ROLE: Just as eve was given to Adam as a helper, Adam was also given the role to protect her, provide for her, be her lord, and also LOVE her. As her man, you take the place of her father, her best friend, her brother, and her lover. You should be all theses men at different times in her life.

(30)- PRAY FOR HER

  *Women don’t want perfect partners; they want men who are striving to be their best selves.

She wants someone who has the courage to face his own emotional demons. On the other hand, some women have created a shell and walls in front of them, because of past hurts, pain while growing up or past relationships. These walls might sometimes make her resist some of these points given , but as the man in her present life, the man who wants to make a difference in her life, the man who wants to make right the wrongs of the past, you must develop an unusual type of patience, understanding to be able to break through. If you love her enough, you will be willing to stay regardless of those walls. Ask God for help because you can't change or heal her, only HE can.

So put in the work. Decide who you want to be in your relationship/marriage that most people don’t have and  put in the effort necessary to become that kind of man. The women are waiting for us. And they want us to step up just as badly as we want them to open up.

 I WISH EVERY MAN GOOD LUCK

......Ladies I hope I can rest now?? Hahahaha

Peace!!